far above the golden valley...

University of Kansas Campanile

words

Words, once they are said can never be taken back, no matter how much you apologize and try to explain yourself, even if the receiver accepts your apology they are forever between you. 

Social media can misconstrue the tone of your words and are easily translated into something you never even thought of expressing.  The hurt is then there, without explanation.

We have all said things we have regretted in the heat of the moment or in anger and then wish we hadn't. I know I will try to hold my words until I am sure, so that they cannot ruin a friendship if they are angry thoughts or resentment.

Peace and Blessings

avoiding confrontation...mmmm, not so good

those times that you put something off because you want to avoid confrontation...not a good idea I find.  Since Sunday I have had to address something and I was in complete shutdown panic anxiety mode, headaches, stomachache and general fatigue (how my fight or flight hormones react). For me it is...if you don't deal with it, it does not exist, but then your body starts to tell you different.

I am always the person that can advocate for others and tell them to say "NO", I do not practice what I preach.  I let it go until I am physically ill and have no choice but to deal with it.  

Oh...confrontation...have always avoided it....keep the peace and everything will be fine...why does it take over 50 years to figure out that is not so.

A lifetime of avoidance and trying to keep everything non-confrontational even if my body and spirit have suffered for it.
So today, I am going to make the effort to confront this habit that has become the norm for me and deal with it...I will let you know what repercussions I have to deal with because of it...but I will be healthier for it, I know.

Love and Light

 

be true to who you are

My life experience has proven that I am very easily persuaded into things that are not true to who I am. I have worked my whole life, through many difficult times, to be my true self and find it hard to do at times. Just last night, I started going a direction that would please someone else, the good thing is this morning I realized it in time to redirect my path.  Honoring yourself for who you are is difficult, allowing others to redirect you is easy. Being true to who you are and the direction you want to take your life is conscious intentional act. You are worth it.

Peace and Blessings